Control Yourself, Not Your Circumstances, Part 1
We are taught from a very young age to be action oriented. If something isn’t the way we want it to be, we’re taught to wrestle it into the shape we prefer it to be. Perhaps this is why there are so many control freaks running about—if something isn’t right, they’ve got to put it right by jumping in the middle of a situation, arranging all the details until it looks the way it should. But this method of creation is backwards, inefficient, and leads to the same problems manifesting in different form.
I have a very good friend who is always jumping in to rescue her children from some fix they’ve gotten themselves into. No sooner does she bail them out of one fix when they find themselves in another. It’s a never ending cycle of the vibration finding another form in which to manifest.
While it’s hard to escape the action-oriented teachings we’ve accepted our whole lives, the fact is, the things we observe right now, in this moment, are a result of past thought and action as are all physical manifestations. We cannot change the outer manifestation without changing the inner cause. We will have far better results if we control our thoughts and therefore vibrations, rather than wrestling with circumstances.
But controlling our thoughts about a subject that has a history of trouble for us is easier said than done (as is most of this stuff). But it is certainly doable with the right strategy. The first step is to take a step back, try to imagine the same set of circumstances on someone else’s shoulders. Try to see how Law of Attraction might have drawn that situation or circumstance into that person’s experience. What beliefs and thoughts might someone have to attract such an experience?
The reason I say to imagine the circumstance is someone else’s is because it’s always easier to see Law of Attraction at work in someone else’s life. It’s our own lives we’re typically blind about. Seeing someone else in your shoes gives you a break from the self-judgement and gives you some distance on the issue.
Once you’ve gained some insight about the thoughts and/or beliefs that may be attracting the situation (hopefully you’ve written them down), examine these and see where you might entertain thoughts that help you shift beliefs about the underlying issue. Here’s an example of how that might work:
Experience: I never have enough money to pay all my bills.
Imagine this to be someone else’s problem: My friend, George, never has enough money to pay his bills.
Consider the beliefs that might have brought this situation into George’s life:
George possibly believes his working class roots prevent him from experiencing anything other than financial struggle.
George possibly believes he isn’t smart or educated enough to make sufficient money to support his lifestyle.
George possibly believes he needs to spend everything he makes before he even makes it or he will lose the opportunity to spend it.
George possibly believes in scarcity so deeply, he’s afraid if he doesn’t buy everything the instant he thinks of buying it, it will be gone.
These kinds of beliefs are directly opposed to George (or you) experiencing his desire of prosperity. So of course, he will experience financial struggle. In the next post, I’ll discuss ways George can shift his vibration to allow experiences he’d prefer regarding the subject of his finances.
