But Bitching is Fun!
Don’t ya just hate it when you’re enjoying a nice energetic rant about something, feeling full of self-righteous indignation about how you’re right about something and someone else is wrong and how they’ve done you dirty and what you’re going to do about it and so on and so forth? Ya gotta admit, bitching is fun sometimes! Abraham says it feels good sometimes because we’ve built up momentum about the rant. Well, that’s for sure. The best rants certainly have momentum. Eckhart Tolle says we enjoy this type of self-righteous bloviating because it makes our ego, the self-created illusion of the self, feel strong and real.
Whatever the reason we enjoy bitching so much, we can all agree that we absolutely hate having a good bitch session interrupted with a reminder that we create our own reality! Pul-eeeeeeease! I know I personally despise such a reminder when I’m on a good tear. But it’s the truth. We do create our own reality and as much as we hate admitting it, we attracted the stuff we’re bitching about. Dang! Don’t ya just hate admitting that? I know I do.
But while we allow ourselves to indulge in the fantasy that we are the victims of anything other than our own vibration, we are literally throwing our power away, sacrificing it to the belief that we are victims. So it is important to rein in these rants as soon as we realize we’re doing it.
Sometimes we have so much resistance built up about a given subject that we cannot admit to ourselves we’ve attracted a situation into our experience. But if we are going to move beyond current circumstances, we have to take back some power and soften our vibration about the situation.
Focusing on what you did to attract the situation will only increase your resistance—which is why it feels so bad to be reminded of that fact. Instead try Michael Losier’s technique of shifting the focus by asking yourself, “What do I want instead?” Allow yourself to indulge in a rant of what you desire instead of the current situation, then close your eyes and allow yourself to relax and breathe. If images, music, or words come into your mind, just allow them, enjoy them briefly. Then open your eyes and make a decison to let go of the situation. Find something to focus on that will engage your attention and shift your focus onto something that feels better.
Do this consistently with your bitch sessions and you’ll not only attract less of what you don’t want, you’ll also be a more powerful conscious creator because you’ll stop throwing away your power.
